The Definition of Emotional Pain and How You Can Use It to Your Advantage.

 

The definition of emotional pain is an unpleasant feeling or a suffering of a psychological, non-physical origin. It “how much you hurt as a human being,” a “persistent, uneasy feeling of the mind and heart.”

There is no shortage in the ways psychological pain is referred to, and that’s because emotions are one of the most powerful forces inside us.

For example, my emotional pain associated with past financial failures drove me to build my affiliate marketing business, which has allowed me to share this blog post with you.

Under the power of emotions, human beings can manifest tremendous accomplishments. Emotions are the fuel that propels us toward our goals.

The key to overcoming emotional pain and using it to your advantage is to completely change the way you view it.

Feeling Stuck Is a Place to Begin

Are you stuck in life? Are you disgusted with certain aspects of your life at the present moment?

Many who are “stuck” in life fail to use their emotions to their advantage. They don’t have the discipline to learn to use their emotions to fuel their desire for a better life.

People spend a tremendous amount of time talking about HOW THEY FEEL but they don’t USE their emotions as motivation.

Here’s the good news: feeling stuck is not necessarily a bad thing. You can use these emotions to your advantage by reflecting on what is causing the feeling and what you need to do to move ahead.

Feeling stuck is a place to begin. It can be a positive place to change the way we view emotional pain. The key is changing the way we view our pain. This is critical in order to successfully move forward.

For example, when we think about the emotion of “being disgusted” it’s always viewed in a negative light. Most people do not equate “disgust” as a positive motivator because of the negative aspects associated with it. “I’m sick of this…” “I’m tired of this situation…” “I can’t deal with…” and so on.

The purpose of this post is to get you to start thinking in a different way about your emotions. You, and only you, have to get to a point where you MAKE A DECISION to view your dissatisfaction in a different way.

If you make a conscious decision to view the emotion of DISGUST in a different way then you can use those emotions as a powerful motivating force to change what you don’t like about your life.

Regardless how difficult our circumstances are the greatest tool you have is your mind. When you have a functioning mental capacity there will always be a fighting chance to become unstuck.

Have You Reached Your Breaking Point?

There will be a moment in your life, or moments, when everything is going wrong.

It seems your world is literally falling apart. You may have emotionally or physically abusive individuals who are running rampant in your life. Before you realize it, the pain gets so intense that you finally HAVE TO CONFRONT IT.

It’s situations like these when people come to their breaking point and have to make a critical decision, the proverbial “fork in the road.” This is the “emotional threshold” where people are forced to make drastic or radical changes which are fueled by painful emotions.

Once you reach that level of PAIN, if you channel your emotions to use them as motivation you can become almost unstoppable in the attainment of your objectives.

The key is you must consciously change the way you think about the pain you’re experiencing. You can only accomplish this from within yourself.

Lies and Self-Deception

Would I lie to you?
Would I lie to you honey?
Now would I say something that wasn’t true?
I’m asking you sugar
Would I lie to you?”

From the song “Would I Lie To You” by The Eurythmics

Most people LIE to themselves. They really do. The sad fact is people believe their own lies.

When you say “My life is OK” when you know full well it isn’t, you’re lying to yourself.

Making the statement “I know how to make money” when you are FLAT BROKE is a lie. You believe your own lie.

You proclaim to a family member “It’s not my fault”, when you know you didn’t do all that you could to prevent an unpleasant situation from occuring.  Once again, you believe your own LIE.

It’s mind-boggling to me the thorough self-deception that takes place on a massive scale – so much so that the line between what’s true and what’s false has all but disappeared.

But at the end of the day, when you are alone with your thoughts you know your life isn’t OK.

The reason why people lie to themselves is they do not want to experience mental and emotional PAIN.

We don’t want the mental and emotional turmoil that comes with personal upheaval. The lives of so many people are fragile and uncertain. The mere thought of change can be downright frightening.

The feelings that come with the pain of turmoil, discord and upheaval are the very internal feelings that serves as the catalyst for creating a life of wealth and abundance!

What people have tried to avoid is the very thing that propels you to unimaginable success! This is how it works. This is how it’s always worked!

The day I stopped lying to myself about the true state of my life was the day everything started to turn around! EVERYTHING started to change because I changed!

Use Your Pain and Disgust to Motivate You

If you’ve ever faced a significant crisis in your life you will have experienced the power of purpose to tap reserves of energy, determination and courage you likely didn’t know you had.

In my own personal life, the emotions from disgust and pain motivated me to the point where I became obsessed with creating a better version of myself and a life I could truly enjoy.

It was during one of the most difficult times of my life I joined Wealthy Affiliate. I did so because I wanted a way out of my emotional and financial pain. I wanted to build an affiliate marketing business that would provide freedom from lack and limitation.

I’ve had some really bad times along with significant amounts of emotional and mental pain and disgust. It’s a hard fact that the painful moments are the moments that define us, the proverbial “fork in the road.”

If you read the life stories of most self-made millionaires, the defining point in their lives was the point where they experienced overwhelming pain, a “defining moment” where a single decision was made that changed the rest of their lives.

An excellent example of this is Grant Cardone. In the video below he describes a very painful time in his life, a “defining moment” that completely changed him, a period in his life where he experienced overwhelming pain.

We only see the successes people enjoy – their recent accomplishments. Too many times we fail to recognize what some individuals have gone through to get to that point where they have overcome tremendous obstacles.

Grant Cardone is one example of many who have used their pain and disgust as motivation to reach their cherished goals and live a life of abundance.

I want to make a point here: In my blog posts I will never say “you should be like” or “you should act like” a particular individual. What I prefer to say is “what we can learn from this person is…”

My reason for that is there are far to many people nowadays who are overly sensitive and look for negatives in the character in others. We all have flaws and imperfections, myself included – however, there are life lessons we can learn by examining the liver of others.

Do You Have A Compelling WHY?

What’s your WHY?

Why do you do what you do?

If we can understand what our why is (and what it is not), we can properly focus on both our short-term and long-term goals. Focus creates momentum. This is the reason discovering your personal “Why” is so critical for success.

We live in a world filled by never-ending distractions. Most people live their lives in a state of constant distraction and are always reacting to events in life.

When you live in a constant state of REACTING to events in your day to day life, you will NEVER see true success. When we allow time-wasting, meaningless activities to cause us   to lose our focus, we’re reacting to our circumstances instead of creating them.

The reason why people FAIL when it comes to creating a life of wealth and abundance is this: Most people live their lives by focusing on what they have to do. Successful people focus on what they MUST do.

High achievers will tell you that the process of overcoming obstacles is what allowed them to live a life of abundance. Having a vision of the future that excites and compels them, even in the face of overwhelming obstacles, is what made the difference.

That’s why they are where they are.

I want you to think about the thoughts in this blog post.

Really think about your own life and how you can improve RIGHT NOW – TODAY.

You only get ONE life.

One shot to get it right.

Talk Soon,

Howard

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